Allow yourself to feel completely. And when you love, don't hold back.
When you stop holding back, you'll be amazed at how much you are capable of giving, getting, experiencing... The true test does not lie in how much one can love someone, but whether one can still continue to be capable of loving and being loved despite being wounded in the past, having that same courage, passion, drive, and possessiveness as the first time.
Many people say choose someone who loves you more than you love them. Some say choose someone who is a better person than you. Some others talk about being with someone who completes you. I feel that we should choose someone who loves us as much as we love them, the knowledge of which cannot be measured but only experienced... Pick the one who compliments you, who calms you when you are like the wind, and who lights your fire when you are afraid to burn.
One fine day, twenty, thirty, maybe forty years later, we will be on our death bed. And no matter how much of a fulfilling life we've had, in those final moments, we are not only going to look back at everything we said and did but also ponder over the things we didn't, just because we were afraid to get hurt, just because we didn't believe ourself, in each other, in "us," because we linked true love with being together happily ever after, because we knew we'd never die in each other's arms, because we knew we'd never make it.
Know that in those final moments, we will neither be able to turn back time nor have enough time on our hands to make amends and completed those unfinished karmas.
So seize the moment. Don't hold back. Give it all you feel like. Love like you've never loved before. Bring your walls down and let yourself experience the warmth and privilege of being loved.
Lead with your heart. Express with your body. Speak your mind. Love with your soul. Allow yourself to spread your wings and fly high no matter how heavy your baggage seems. Too often we let our good, bad, and ugly past make us bitter and blinded sided. That is why we keep running into the same karmic cycles (deja vu) and samskaras (habit/thought patterns) but we fail to realize that our past was only meant to refine us and to prepare us for the extraordinary that lies tomorrow.
Look forward to tomorrow. Look forward to being extraordinary.